Why Dating Sucks Pt. 3
Pop Quiz time!
So far in my dating blog series we have learned:
c) All of the above
d) Jack shit.
If you answered D..
Grumpy Cat says “talk to the hand!”
If you answered C, then GOOD JOB! You have basic reading skills and managed to stay in tune with my weekly posts.
This weeks reason is quite simple. Keeping my prior posts in mind, say you’ve progressed through the steps..
You’ve managed to find that amazing guy who you met through your friend at her wedding. You’ve scored the date – you both exchanged numbers, he even added you on Facebook, he doesn’t have anything out of the ordinary posted – things are looking pretty so far.
Then of course, you both get to know each other a bit over the phone, you find out the basics and realize that you’re talking to a doctor or startup self-made mogul, who graduated from an elite university, and shoot – he even likes animals and babies! He also happens to be fairly receptive via text and call.. so far, so good.
Now, it’s go time. You both go to some overpriced steakhouse and to get the night started you have a drink. He has a drink. You have another drink. He has 2 drinks. Pretty soon you two are connecting like Shah Rukh Khan and Kajol during the “Ja Simrun Ja” moment in DDLJ – you are feeling warm and fuzzy (and let’s be clear, the alcohol probably has something to do with this, but fine I won’t kill your vibe).
So now the date is nearing it’s end. You guys download Uber, and are on your dainty way home. Although when he gets to your place, he needs to run upstairs and hit the loo, because well 3 Jack and coke’s kinda require at least 2 trips to the loo. Without getting into it – he wants to get it on like Marvin Gaye style.
REASON # 3: I’M NOT A PIECE OF MEAT! WHY DO GUYS/GIRLS WANNA JUST HOOK AND NOT DATE ME???
Now, please be advised – I’m not saying that everyone who dates wants to hook up with each other. I’m just saying that it’s a very common problem that sadly a lot of my girl and guy friends have to deal with. Maybe my girl friends more than my guy friends, but hey there are some female she-devils running around too.
Depending on what your interest level/desires are – hooking up with your dates just may be the perfect thing for you. No emotions, no strings attached, and no baggage – but for most of the population that’s out there seeking more than just a quick wham-bamn-thank-you-ma’am this poises as a general problem for those who are looking to build a long-lasting commitment with someone.
If it’s clear that the person you’re dating thinks your his or her best friend with benefits – then cut it off. Respect yourself enough to know what you want, and if you want a long lasting relationship – then seek it. If you’re okay with the alternative – then carpe diem. Never compromise or allow anyone to convince you that hooking up is the way to their heart (It’s a way to other organs, most definitely not the heart).
To summarize: Have enough self-esteem to know the difference of when someone genuinely cares about you vs. someone who’s trying to get in your pants. Tough love, but someone’s gotta do it!
Agree/disagree with my points till date? Comment below to let me know!
Till next week folks!
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