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Stop Chasing This And Start Chasing That!

Stop. Stop it right there. I know what you’re doing right now, oh faithful reader of PrettyPlease – you’re judging me. First, I haven’t texted or called or blogged since before Baby North West was born/conceived (date of conception may be questionable, but that’s neither here nor there). Second, I showed up with an uber vague title which means WHAT Raji, WHAT! (I’m getting there I promise, I promise). Anywho, the POINT is that I’m BACK. 



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Now that we’re done being mad for the separation anxiety we caused, it’s time to get on with the purpose of my EXTREMELY vague title. So often, we are told to chase things in life. Here’s a minor layout as to what we’re supposed to chase in our lives: 

 

Age 0 – 4: No one cares. Just learn your ABC’s. Learn how to share and get potty trained. This is the most legit time in your life – everyone has zero expectations from you other than don’t eat mud and don’t be that kid who starts screaming in the middle of an outing with your parents.

 

Age 5 – 18: You’re parents want the best for you. Hence, they start teaching you to chase. During this time period, you are told to chase grades. Anything lower than an A, and you need to keep chasing buddy. Once you get that “A” average, the next thing you’re going to be chasing will be the idea of your dream career. My amazing Indian parents thought I would be a doctor (fail, to this day I can’t look at a needle without crying), a lawyer (yea until I realized I hated the law), and an engineer (why couldn’t they understand I just wanted to be a princess??). So now you’re chasing your grades, the idea of career, and the pursuit of a top-tier college which brings me to..

 

Ages 18 – 22: College. This is where you roll up your sleeves, get into the nitty gritty, cue some Rocky fight music on Spotify and start chasing. CHASE THAT DIPLOMA, BABY! Cuz no diploma, no job.



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Ages 22 – the rest of your life: M & M. Marriage and Money. Both marriage and money are great right? Yup, but what if I told you I can tell you two things to chase instead that will give you an even better future? It’s true. I’m effing badass, and I got your back, so LISTEN UP:

STOP CHASING MARRIAGE



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I get it. I get it. (Drake voice) Some people genuinely dream about their wedding day since the tender ages of 3 (I am rolling my judgmental eyes at these people, but hey let’s agree to disagree). For some people, their life goal is to find a suitable partner who will take care of all their needs and wants and then build a family with them – fair enough. I don’t disagree that marriage is and should be the end goal – but the entire pursuit of marriage becomes a frenzy for some people. Marriage is not a race to the alter – it’s simply the next natural step which should be taken when it is right to do so, not because you hit a certain age or your parents want a son-in-law (buy them a puppy, it might buy you some time).

START CHASING COMPANIONSHIP: 

Instead of considering every single new person you date the potential to be your life partner and creating unnecessary expectations, start meeting people and understanding what they’re genuinely about. Focus on the individual – their traits, their habits, their values, and not whether or not they’d look great in a designer tux. Then enjoy each other – fully focus on what you want and what your partner wants – and when both sets of expectations align – gloriously move onto the next step.

STOP CHASING MONEY

I was absolutely guilty of this when I first got out of college. I took one of the first jobs that I was offered and ran with it – thinking, I will use this experience to work towards my dream job. Then of course, a common pitfall which happens to a LOT of us occurred – I became a slave to my paycheck. I got so caught up in chasing the dinero that I forgot to remember what I should be chasing: my dreams and my own goals. We get caught up chasing jobs which we think are going to make us so much money, which for the most part is great – but not when you don’t love what you do.

START CHASING YOUR CAREER:

This should be your focus. Chase your ambitions. What are you good at? What do you love doing? Then determine how to create the best career and roadmap for that ultimate goal. Because it’s true – when you love what you do, the money will gradually follow!

 



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So your homework is to learn and love this equation: CC > MM. Chase companionship and your career, and stop chasing marriage and money. And yup, thank me later (via roses, only if they’re red). Till next time kittens! Xoxo!

 

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Why Dating Sucks Pt. 3

Hi!!! First name, Princess! Last name Raji! PrincessRajiPrincessRaji (who needs a hype man with me around?) 

Pop Quiz time!

So far in my dating blog series we have learned:

a) Where do we even find people to date in the first place?

b) When we do find a potential person – are they even legit enough to date?

c) All of the above

d) Jack shit.

If you answered D.. 

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Why Dating Sucks Pt. 2

Hi Pretty Please Pretties.. Here’s the second part of my blog series for Simply Match Me.. ENJOY!

 

RIIIIIINNNNNNNGGGGGGGGGG…

This is Professor PrincessRaji (Instagram & tweet a girl, geez!) Class is in session, thank  you very much. WAIT!!! Did you read the first post in my series? If you didn’t click here, and pretend you did anyway.

ANYWAY Here we are again with WHY DATING SUCKS PT. 2 – now say you do manage to meet someone amazing at the local Starbucks..

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Let’s set the scene a bit: You’re ordering a grande vanilla chai latte hold the foam, extra pumps of vanilla, and you see this ridiculously amazing looking dude guy checking you out. First thought? Shit, do I have toilet paper on my foot? Is my hair a mess? IS HE STARING AT MY MESSY HAIR? Whoa.. why is he walking over to me? OMG, DID I FORGET TO WEAR PANTS – AM I DREAMI- IS THIS A DREAM. WAKE UP. WAAAAKE UPPPPP. And all of a sudden he says..

 

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Why Dating Sucks Pt. 1

HIIIIIIIIIIIIIII :: fangirl wave ::

 

We MISSED YOU, did you miss us?? 

 

I’m doing a fun 5 post mini-series for our favorite new dating site, SimplyMatchMe! SimplyMatchMe is an EASY dating site, throw some basic information, sit back, and allow them to make introductions for you. Could dating ever be any easier?  And to celebrate this new site, I decided to write about well.. why dating sucks to begin with!

 

Here’s a snippet and a link to my post, remember every Tuesday at 10:00am – I’ll have a new reason WHY DATING SUCKS!

 



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Hi, my name’s Raji. You may know me from my blog, or my ridicInstagram/Twitter. I’m here to walk you through the heady concept of “dating”.

(Cue: Themetrack from Psycho. )

So let’s dive right into it, shall we?

I’ve never heard anyone say “Man, this dating thing is really amazing! I’m having the time of my life dating, there are SO MANY FISH IN THE SEA, you’d think I’m at Waterworld 24-7.” And well, the reason for this is quite simple, as I said in my instagram video, dating sucks. It’s not the easiest thing to embark on, it’s anxiety inducing, and as a wise woman once said “Ain’t nobody got time for that“. Each week for the next 5, I’ll be exploring why dating sucks!

 

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45 Life Lessons By A 90 Year Old

I ran across this post on StumbleUpon yesterday evening and I found it enlightening.. Not only was it filled with 45 magical mantra’s, but something about it being written by an elderly person who has lived most of their life put it in perspective. Too often we are caught up in the day to day headaches, mundane activities, and short-sighted obstacles.



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Here are the 45 life lessons:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short not to enjoy it.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for things that matter.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye… But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else. Continue reading

3 Simple Steps To Make You A Better Person

Help me help you. I’m huge on introspection, which can be good or bad at times. With introspection comes careful examination of one’s habits – what is and is not working? Our generation is currently in a rush to make it to the top, to launch the next new hot start-up, we’re constantly glued to our phone, and our idea of a date is Facetime. Though technologically advanced, we lack some fundamentals, which I’ve managed to sift through. One thing I want to bring back is the air of personalization .. with friends, employers, and family. Here are three things to help make you a better person:

1) COMMUNICATE IN PERSON

This is what human interaction looks like nowadays:

Boy: Hi ;)

Girl: Hiya whats up?

Boy: Nothing. Bored. Chillin. K, time for the gym, ttyl.

Girl: Okay bye!!! ;) :) (emoji) (emoji) (stupid emoji) (emoji)

Lame. And, yes, I’m judging you if you have a similar text in your phone.



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Texting is written communication. I, being in love with writing, can respect that form of communication. However, an interaction in person is not only refreshing, but it’s personable. It’s an amazing feeling to truly listen to someones thoughts and feelings, and vice versa. When I’m on the phone, chances are I’m playing Bejeweled or checking Twitter. Texting doesn’t account for tone either, which can manage to lead to unnecessary communication. You never know who may be in need of a friend, or how good it might feel to truly vent and talk to an old friend.

2) SAY “THANK YOU”



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This is probably the most powerful yet underrated term ever. It’s easy to say

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10 Reason’s To Leave The One You’re With – Relationship Deal-Breakers

143 BABY!! HE’S PERFECT!!!! 

NOT as perfect as my girlfriend! 

OMG .. My boyfriend is so sweet!!!!

Dude, my girlfriend is so caring!!!! 

Congratulations. If in the last month you’ve uttered any of these things, chances are you may be in a relationship. Speculation is a bit-necessary at times. There is nothing wrong with being happy in a relationship, as a matter of fact, it’s an amazing thing to be in a strong and healthy union. There are also those cases where you may think you’re in a fabulous relationship, but you’re not. I figure, oh what the hey, might as well shed some light for those of us who refuse to open our eyes. I present to you, some uber obvious, relationship deal-breakers.



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1) There is no “I” in we

When you both lose your sole identities to each other, meaning I don’t get to hang out with Jill anymore, I have to hang out with Jill & John. And John doesn’t go anywhere or make plans without Jill because well, their life officially consists of “we” and “they” as opposed to “I” or “me”. Not necessarily a deal-breaker, but watch yourself, a solo identity is a terrible thing to waste.

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7 Reasons Why It’s Good To Be Single

With all things “Valentine” looming around and about, it’s no surprise that many a single guy or gal is going to wonder .. “Why don’t I have someone?” or “Man .. it’s time for me to get laid/hitched/texted back”. Maybe you’re right .. but maybe not! See I’m of a different school of thought. I don’t believe that “single” is synonymous with “miserable”, or “single” means “lonely”. There is beauty in single-dom, so long as you’re confident enough to see it.







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5 Ways You Won’t Find Love: Dating Mistakes Prince Charming Hates

Girl meets guy. Guy thinks girl is cute. Guy and Girl start to date. Girl thinks everything is amazing. Guy all of a sudden avoids girl. Girl is confused/heartbroken/in denial.

Enter: Heartbroken Girl

Exit: Prince Charming



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Lets revisit a story.. Cinderella, she danced with Prince C, lost her shoe, and had to leave FAST. Prince Charming meanwhile had a bone(r) to pick with her. He was besotted. Sound like a disaster? Not really, Cinderella worked her charm and her and Prince C lived happily ever after. There’s a lot you can learn from them too.

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